Posts Tagged ‘believe’

what is “supposed to”?


What is “supposed to”? We’ve all said it pertaining to many different things in our lives whether we are or are not “supposed to”. As children our parents are constantly reminding us of what we are and are not “supposed to” be doing. And as adults we know the right from wrong, good from bad, well at least for the most part. But when it comes to our dreams, our plans, and our lives in general i find it very hard to know what is “supposed to”. I have often heard people say that love is “supposed to” be hard. I know that being in a relationship is work, it takes effort to grow something amazing. But love, love is not hard. Love is what we are born to do, we never have to learn it, we just have to choose it over the bad that we are taught in our lives. Choosing love can be a difficult game, sure, but once you start you dont want to stop. But love as an action, as a feeling is not hard. I am learning this for the very first time. And i have a wonderful man as my instructor. Love. It brings about thoughts of happiness followed by fear followed by security. This is my path at least. Love is a feeling thats harder to repress than it is to feel for when its right love will come up and slap you in the face. My cheek is still burning, i swear! This is too easy, its not “supposed to” be this easy, its not “supposed to” be like this and I’m not “supposed to” be falling for you this fast…these are things that i heard this week come out of a man that i feel the exact same way about. Shocking! You mean someone gets me, my crazy sweet self and is actually feeling the same way? Ahh, yes, finally. Its scary in a good way to feel like this so fast. But amazing and im trying to soak it all up. But here’s what i believe… We are all on a journey and when youre journey matches up with someone elses journey and you fall in mutual like then thats whats “supposed to” be. Thats it, there are no rules on how fast it happens or how it goes, its just fate knocking on your door giving you your hearts desires, manifesting your dreams. It is that easy, it is that simple and it is love. Not “supposed to” be, no, is. I am in awe and im in like and i believe in this, in him, in us. And when someone tells you they like you, you make them happy and that they want to be with you…give them a huge kiss and hold on like hell because youre about the start the ride of your life! Im on it and i dont ever want to get off.


with all your heart…


a painting by donna downey, a simple, beautiful message.

It was Marcus Aurelius that said “Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.”  It is hard sometimes to be confident in love, between our own self doubt, other peoples opinions, and over thinking it can be very near impossible, if we let it that is.  “…do so with all your heart.” he said, this is a concept that is sometimes lost on us.  Maybe it’s because we did it and were hurt as a result, maybe we don’t know how, or maybe we can’t figure out exactly what it is we’re supposed to with with all our heart.  It’s simple, straight forward advice if you think about it, acceptance and love, isn’t that what we were taught from day one?  How, over the course of growing up do we lose the ability to do these things unjustly and without question, we lose that blissful wide eyed innocence that as children we long to lose and as adults we mourn the loss of?  It fades with experience, with living, and with exposure, but does that mean that we have to let it fade, that we have to become hard and jaded?  Who says that we can’t still believe in Santa Clause, not that a strange man shimmy’s down our chimney every year, but the magic and spirit that it encompasses, when we refuse to let reality and the word “impossible” cloud our brains could we once again believe that magic does exist, that there are some things in life that go right as you had hoped, some things in life that still manage to take our breathe away and leave us smiling and our hearts swollen with love?  YES!  Or at least I’m going to believe so, and isn’t that half the battle anyway?  I don’t know about you, but I have found myself using one single excuse too much in my life lately, “but, that’s what happened in the past.”  We all have sad stories about love lost and broken hearts but that doesn’t mean we should bring that into the present.  The past is gone, and tomorrow may never come so why are we so intent on worrying about them and missing what is going on right now, right in front of our face?  I know I am guilty of this in my relationship and I think it is causing me to miss some of the happy, funny, memorable moments that end up being what make you happiest, so I am taking a vow to make a serious effort to worry about the current moment only.  That doesn’t mean that the future shouldn’t be planned for or that you shouldn’t save and dream, it’s the emotions and actions that I have to learn to ignore.  Accept the things to which fate binds you, but with all your heart…I think I can handle that, it will take some practice, but I must admit some of the things in my life that fate bound me to, I fought thinking they were off my planned path, and you know what, they have for the most part turned out to be the best things in my life…fate.  Love the people that fate brings you together with, but with all your heart.  This is the one that is going to be tricky, giving all you heart to someone can be very dangerous, however it can be the most rewarding experience of your life.  And whether it’s the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with or it’s a life lesson and/or friendship currently posing as a relationship, loving them with all your heart and not worrying about the consequences to me it seems could potentially eliminate the consequences all together…  Isn’t that self-fulfilling prophecy?  If you think it, it will come.  So maybe, just maybe I should take the advice of a certain gentleman in my life and fill my time with things that I love like my business, my friends, my hobbies, leaving of course a little time for him in there somewhere and stop worrying about what has or is going to happen, stop over thinking things, making things up in my head and sit back, enjoy the ride and “love the ‘person’ with whom fate brings me together, but do so with all my heart!”

you can view the rest of donna’s amazing paintings at simply_me