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with all your heart…

29/01/2010

a painting by donna downey, a simple, beautiful message.

It was Marcus Aurelius that said “Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.”  It is hard sometimes to be confident in love, between our own self doubt, other peoples opinions, and over thinking it can be very near impossible, if we let it that is.  “…do so with all your heart.” he said, this is a concept that is sometimes lost on us.  Maybe it’s because we did it and were hurt as a result, maybe we don’t know how, or maybe we can’t figure out exactly what it is we’re supposed to with with all our heart.  It’s simple, straight forward advice if you think about it, acceptance and love, isn’t that what we were taught from day one?  How, over the course of growing up do we lose the ability to do these things unjustly and without question, we lose that blissful wide eyed innocence that as children we long to lose and as adults we mourn the loss of?  It fades with experience, with living, and with exposure, but does that mean that we have to let it fade, that we have to become hard and jaded?  Who says that we can’t still believe in Santa Clause, not that a strange man shimmy’s down our chimney every year, but the magic and spirit that it encompasses, when we refuse to let reality and the word “impossible” cloud our brains could we once again believe that magic does exist, that there are some things in life that go right as you had hoped, some things in life that still manage to take our breathe away and leave us smiling and our hearts swollen with love?  YES!  Or at least I’m going to believe so, and isn’t that half the battle anyway?  I don’t know about you, but I have found myself using one single excuse too much in my life lately, “but, that’s what happened in the past.”  We all have sad stories about love lost and broken hearts but that doesn’t mean we should bring that into the present.  The past is gone, and tomorrow may never come so why are we so intent on worrying about them and missing what is going on right now, right in front of our face?  I know I am guilty of this in my relationship and I think it is causing me to miss some of the happy, funny, memorable moments that end up being what make you happiest, so I am taking a vow to make a serious effort to worry about the current moment only.  That doesn’t mean that the future shouldn’t be planned for or that you shouldn’t save and dream, it’s the emotions and actions that I have to learn to ignore.  Accept the things to which fate binds you, but with all your heart…I think I can handle that, it will take some practice, but I must admit some of the things in my life that fate bound me to, I fought thinking they were off my planned path, and you know what, they have for the most part turned out to be the best things in my life…fate.  Love the people that fate brings you together with, but with all your heart.  This is the one that is going to be tricky, giving all you heart to someone can be very dangerous, however it can be the most rewarding experience of your life.  And whether it’s the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with or it’s a life lesson and/or friendship currently posing as a relationship, loving them with all your heart and not worrying about the consequences to me it seems could potentially eliminate the consequences all together…  Isn’t that self-fulfilling prophecy?  If you think it, it will come.  So maybe, just maybe I should take the advice of a certain gentleman in my life and fill my time with things that I love like my business, my friends, my hobbies, leaving of course a little time for him in there somewhere and stop worrying about what has or is going to happen, stop over thinking things, making things up in my head and sit back, enjoy the ride and “love the ‘person’ with whom fate brings me together, but do so with all my heart!”

you can view the rest of donna’s amazing paintings at donnadowney.typepad.com/ simply_me

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